We’re reaching the end of the experiment for Married at First Sight, and even though Heather and Derek called it quits after less than two weeks of marriage, there’s still something to be taken away from the experience.
After having allowed both Heather and Derek time to reflect on the experiment and what went right or wrong, we asked Heather a few questions about her thoughts on the experiment and how she views her former husband after it was all said and done. Here’s what she had to say.
What made you decide to get married at first sight?
I have been ready for a lasting, loving relationship for a few years and haven’t had luck on my own. Doing the show was a huge risk that I was cautious of, but ultimately I felt the potential reward was worth the risk. I kept asking myself, “Well why not?”
Have you seen the show before? If so, what were your initial thoughts?
I hadn’t seen or even heard of the show previously. A flyer was sent to me by a close friend and I didn’t think it was real!! I thought, “Who would actually do this?!” Turns out I would.
Was your job as a flight attendant a concern for you when looking for a spouse because of the work hours?
My job and schedule has been an issue for relationships. It takes a very independent, committed and confident partner to handle my difficult work schedule and time apart from one another.
What types of activities did you look forward to doing or places did you look forward to visiting with your spouse before you were matched?
Well I am an adventurous spirit. I want to go everywhere and I want to see everything…and I don’t just want to hit the touristy spots. Culture fascinates me and I learn more about what’s important in life and what humanity means from traveling. I hope to share this love and wonder of travel with a spouse.
What were your first thoughts when you saw your spouse at the altar?
I was relieved to see he was handsome!
What were 3 of the main characteristics that you looked for in a spouse?
There are many things I look for in a spouse but the main three are probably a good sense of humor, an adventurous spirit and someone who can handle my lifestyle.
Did you have a relationship role model before you entered the experiment, and if you did who was it?
I’ve had several relationship role models but first and foremost are my parents. They are still together after 36 years and although they have day to day struggles, they are still happy and loving to each other.
Describe your spouse in 3 words.
Funny, kind, chill
What did you take away from the experiment?
I have learned a lot about myself and about the type of partner that I want to build a future with. Compromise is a wonderful thing but I don’t ever want to lose sight of my core values. I’ve learned that sometimes, especially being a woman, the strength to set solid boundaries can be difficult.